Another Date

Mike and I met for lunch on Friday, the first date since our first kiss. Being a lunch date I am on a fixed time frame so there isn't much to report. We ate & talked and I was back at work in less then an hour. No followup kiss by the way.


I don't know though. I like him, he's smart and funny and we always have things to talk about but I'm feeling like we are going too slow. K had mentioned that he wanted to take things slow, whether this was because of past relationships gone bad or other reasons I don't know, and I'm OK with slow. I don't want a guy professing his love to me after a month and expecting commitment but this seems to be going really really slow. To slow for me I think. We've been dating for over a month now and have gone on only 5 dates, had one kiss and I really don't feel like I know him that well, which is kinda surprising since we never stop talking on the dates (unless a movie is on).

I think there needs to be a happy medium between what is happening right now and going fast.

I want to feel PURSUED and I don't. I know he likes me as he's the one that asked me out originally and sets all of our dates but I'm starting to feel like that's not enough. Call me crazy but I would like a little passion, and I'm not referring to sex, although that would be nice. As much as I enjoy dating and even being in a relationship I want the other person to want me around as much as possible. Its hard though because when I say this I feel like I'm being a 'girl' like guys always bitch about. Saying we want one thing and then getting upset that we don't have another. I want to feel pursued but I don't want to feel smothered. Now I'm not feeling smothered which is great but I just think there is a little more room to pursue with out getting to that smothering stage yet.

Honestly at this point I feel more like friends then like we are dating. I'm willing to give it some more time as one, he has potential of being great; two, he's K's friend and she thinks highly of him; & three, I don't have any other prospects right now so whats my rush (terrible I know). Basically if this guy was a stranger that asked me out and not K's close friend I probably would have pulled away by now and said it isn't worth it but I feel like I should 'give him another chance' and be patient since they are friends. Perhaps things will change. I just am afraid that if it continues this way and I stay I'll be settling for a relationship that isn't right for me.

I don't think I ask all that much from a relationship and I'm not being unrealistic assuming my relationship would mirror one of my romance novels or a movie but I do want to feel like the guy really wants to be around me and not only as friends. I want there to be a bit more passion/spark between us too.

Basically I want be pursued and I'm not getting that right now.